Randy,
You are soo right. The best advice! Although, I have read a few new ideas to keep in mind.
My youngest has taught me soo much during his 15 years. But this is one lesson we learned together. We learned two years ago to 'plan' his seasons. Niether of us always agreed with the other. But we compromised to an 'agreed calendar'.
Last year was extremely tough, and the worst case example...
A very young Freshman [13 turning 14] adjusting to the HS arena [with personalities degrading on his successes in Kids]. And then, further complicated with [still present] personal issues ...things just kind of fell apart all the way round. He was burned out, ready to quit, and wanted to hide away. I had to be willing [barring emergencies] to let him stumble through some of his own choices/mistakes - at his own pace. He loves this sport and tried to return several times. But each time the tank guage lied. We finally agreed to write the year off.
This year, older and wiser. It's been difficult at times, but managable because he has an evolving plan. We are trying to manage his tournament schedule even a little closer; cushioning for the unexpecteds. I still bark the oppossing options [a dad's job], but I secretly watch with amazement. He now seems to be more objective and appreciates the opprtunity to plan his seasons/efforts [commitment with ever improving behavior].
Maybe next year we will understand it as well as you already apparently do. Once again, I'm reminded why I enjoy your advice.
