6'3, 240 pounds, on the varsity wrestling team, and he's the victim? My son was a very good athlete, wrestled varsity as a freshman, I'm sure he had friends and enemies at school and had all sorts of issues arise. I always sided with the administration, coaches, teachers, etc. when he got in trouble. Didn't matter what "excuse" he came up with or what the other kid did...he couldn't count on daddy bailing him out. So he got along. He was also taught from the time he was 2 that he couldn't fight...he could not strike another person for any reason (that didn't mean he couldn't wrestle them). So he always had to use his brain and not his fists to get out of a jam.
I came from a small town. Parents didn't intercede at every perceived slight from teachers, coaches, and any others. They let those "in charge" be in charge. Big city stuff is different. Lots of folks seem to think they are somehow in charge when all they are is a parent. Leave you kids alone. They will turn out a lot better off and will be able to work through things as adults without if you force them to do it now.
