I saw the Mocco Coleman match and it was a class decision by Coach Douglas. He did not want a technicality to cost Mocco a chance at a NCAA title. I understand your point Will and do not disagree with you, but i have been on the other end of things too.
I was in the corner of two high school matches where i had a wrestler injured by illegal slams. Both of my wrestlers were injured by illegal moves and won their matches as a result.
One of which occured with about 5 seconds left in the third period. My wrestler was a quality kid but was outmatched, the other wrestler repeatedly drilled him after carrying him high on crunch double legs (a lot of non calls by the young ref working it) finally an illegal slam was called with the other wrestler up by 5 in the consolation semis of a two day tourney.
the other match was the finals of a small tourney in Missouri. my heavyweight faced a state runner up in the finals. The opponent had one move, a freestyle arm throw that was beautiful, he would toss heavies at will. My guy tied up with him, ducked under and the kid threw him from his feet in to the mat, slamming his head and dislocating his shoulder severely. The ref signaled immediately and disqualified the thrower before I was even out of the corner to treat my kid.
As a coaching point on the first match, i did not budge one bit on it, my guy could not continue, was injured by an illegal move and could not continue on. Granted, it was not the state tourney nor the NCAAs. Was it the wrong decision, i don't know. I did see the kid later in the year, his coach commented that he stopped messing around and was a better wrestler as a result of being held accountable. The other, i had no choice, the official took complete charge, had stated that he had talked previously with the coach and wrestler to keep things legal.
I am sure the Mays and Brown scenario is exactly as you state and totally see your point. But, rules are rules and often time applied to assure the safety of our kids.