This is a great topic and for some of us it takes longer to realize the situation more than others. I am a father/coach and have probably been guilty of these situations more times than not. In most aspects this is a pretty cut and dry situation. However there are times that underlying circumstances may be involved. There are parents who take everything above and beyond the perspective as far as competition is concerned. In the same aspect there are children dealing with behavioral problems that may not be evident to any onlooker that may feel the need to judge other peoples actions. At this time in my coaching career I have really been trying to reflect on my childrens first years. Before they were State and National Placers. Back when this was truely a recreation. I personally have pushed not only my kids, but also all the kids in my club. Some children respond well to the increased pressure, some do not. However the more success the child has, the more the parent wants. Not so much for themselves, but the desire to help their child to achieve their dreams may go to the extreme. I've seen this at so many different levels it is amazing. I don't truly believe that any parent sets out in a season to drive their child to a breaking point. However it is very easy to lose focus of what their initial goals may have been. This happens to the best of us, and I can readily admit I have been guilty of this myself. As a Father I never feel disappointed in my child, I am always proud. I let them know this as long as they represent themselves in a positive fashion. If they do not do so, as a parent it is my job to let them know that a fit or a tantrum because of a loss is unacceptable. Not the loss, but the behavior that follows. As a Coach I am bound to do the same. But as a coach I am also there to point out the problems and mistakes made. I do this whether we win or lose. There is always room for improvement. I am not here to pass judgement, however I have seen both sides and encourage everyone to take a step back and try to bring some FUN back into the competition. Push your children hard, help make them great. But don't do this at a childs expense, because without the child there will be no greatness.
