I do not think it is the kids winning or loosing that is the problem.I think it is the parents.If they gauge there kid off wins, they will loose.The kids that seem to do the best in my eyes are told to do there best.Some of them loose,some win.With my son we started on just trying to do a move in a match.We where lucky to get that.Now with my girl it is difrant. She want to destroy her opponent.I have to slow her down :} Teach her to wrestle not just win.