Ran across this and it gave me a good reality check. I modified it to pertain to our beloved sport. Thought it would be a good reminder to us all as we approach State qualifying time.
SIDELINE SUGGESTIONS
10 Things Kids Say They Don't Want
Their Parents To Do!
Don't yell out instructions
During the match I'm trying to concentrate on what the coach says and working on what I've been practicing. It's easier for me to do my best if you save instructions and reminders for practice.
Don't put down the officials
This embarrasses me and I sometimes wonder whether the official is going to be tougher on me because my parents yell.
Don't yell at me in public
It will just make things worse because I'll be upset, embarrassed, or worried that you're going to yell at me the next time I do something "wrong."
Don't put down my opponents
When you do this you're not giving us a very good example of sportsmanship so we get mixed messages about going "good sports."
Don't lose your cool
I love to see you excited about the matches, but there's no reason to get so upset that you lose your temper! It's our sport and all the attention is supposed to be on us.
Don't lecture me about mistakes after the tournament
Those rides home in the car after the tournaments are not a good time for lectures about how I messed up - I already feel bad. We can talk later, but please stay calm, and don't forget to mention things I did well during my matches.
Don't forget how to laugh and have fun
Sometimes it's hard for me to relax and have fun during a tournament when I look over and see you so tense and worried.
Don't forget that it's just a game
Odds are, I'm not going to make a career out of playing sports. I know I may get upset if we lose, but I also know that I'm usually feeling better after we go get a pizza. I need to be reminded sometimes that "it's just a game."
