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I debated on posting this, but I am irritated by the actions that were witnessed at the gym yesterday, however I still feel the need to voice an opinion to: The mom who grabbed her son by the back of the neck and violently slammed him down in the stands - I have no idea why you did this, what transpired to behave so poorly in a gym full of wrestlers, parents, family, and children. . .but regardless of your 'reason', your actions are unacceptable. The child was already crying, yet you continued to humiliate him in front of dozens of people by slamming him down in the stands. BE AN ADULT and CONTROL your emotions. How do we expect our children to maintain control of the frustrations of difficult matches and tough losses if we can't control our own tempers mat-side? I have so much respect for our coaches. They feel the same frustrations during difficult matches and losses that our sons and daughters feel when they are on the mat. . .they manage to maintain a sense of calm and remain collected despite the adrenaline running through their veins. They want your child to win, too. . .I admire that. . .I respect that. . .I am happy and proud to be a part of our team. . .but to 'those' coaches, the ones that exhibit the exact opposite of what we try to teach our children, I say to you, "IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE IT, GET OFF THE MAT!". You don't walk off and leave your injured wrestler lying in the middle of the mat b/c you're so angry that he's 'giving up' that you can't do what is right. . .to top it off it's your own son. . . the coaches who weren't even there coaching him walked onto the mat and helped him off. . .all I can do is shake my head and feel disgust for your behavior. . . not just at yesterdays tournament, but last weekend as well when you whisper words of intimidation to your sons opponent when the match was already over. . .How about next time you try being a ROLE MODEL!!! You definitely should NOT be allowed to coach - anyone - not even your own son!!! How successful or unsuccessful your child is on the mat - that has NOTHING to do with your parenting skills. . .Having a child who is COACHABLE, RESPECTFUL, GREAT TEAMMATE, MENTALLY TOUGH, RESILIENT, & TRIES THEIR BEST - those are the qualities that are a direct reflection of your parenting. Think of that next time your are slamming your kid down in the stands or walking away when your son is injured. . .
Okay rant over. . .
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Good on you for posting! We've got quite a collection of crazy-parent clips; we've often talked about putting them together and making a video for Youtube.
A couple weeks ago I posted about a 6U mom screaming, "Make him cry!" as she stomped her feet in the stands. Later I heard a coach of my 10U son's opponent screaming, "Rip his head off!" after his kid threw a headlock. I wonder how this registers to a young child when they hear these things coming out of the mouths of adults...
This past weekend in Marysville I watched a lady from...another state, who was without question, strung out on meth. She pounded the mat with both hands constantly while she chewed on the side of her face and everyone watched in awe; I was embarrassed for her and the team. Her "partner" (maybe son?) was actually a coach and man was he putting on a show. It sickens me to see these people conducting themselves in such a way in front of children. Go to sleep the night before a tourney, take a shower, and wait till after the tournaments to satisfy your demons folks (or quit, that's an option too)!
I saw a ref initiate contact with a coach who was questioning his call. They were arguing and the ref pushed the coach by putting his hand on his chest. Fortunately the coach had enough character not to take a swing.
I wonder if a culmination of video clips like this should be shown to coaches, refs, and parents alike before they can even attend their first wrestling tourney. At the very least, a good collection of coaches mistreating kids, yelling the most moronic of things, plus refs crossing the line of decency, should be shown to all who are issued coaches' cards and whatever refs are issued before they can officiate. Could behavior be improved by having tournament directors call these behaviors out? Is positive peer pressure the answer? Everyone sees it, but nobody says anything (myself included).
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Bad sportmanship comes from bad parenting Moms and dads take the loss worse than the kids do wow
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